It’s been a few weeks since my last post, and it’s not because terribly exciting events hasn’t happened or even because I’ve been terribly busy. I’ve just been living my life. In the past weeks, I’ve turned 22, celebrated eight months of my relationship, got really sick, had a best friend come visit me from home, started a new job, ended a new job, attended my first rugby game, and all around, just trying to find my niche in this big old world.
But while I’ve been searching high and low for that niche, the world keeps on spinning right along.
Now, I must say my employment record here in Australia is a lot like a teenage romance. Sometimes, on. Sometimes, off. Sometimes, “we’re just talking.” I started as a swim instructor, then added in promotional staffing, while also working as an assistant to a PR firm. Then, I stopped the instructing, and the assistantship was completed. I took a job as “Sales Marketer”, which turned out to be “Door to Door,” which I happily did, for all of two weeks. Until it poured down rain for six hours straight, and I was soaking wet, unsuccessfully banking any commission. That was that.
I think there’s been misplaced pressure, mainly placed on myself BY myself, to land the “perfect” job while I’m living the “dream.” Many people don’t understand how I can move this far to begin with, let alone without a job. When I first moved here, I met with a co-founder of a successful business here in Sydney, who moved here from the UK. He knew how hard it was to break into any industry, especially PR/Marketing, as a recent graduate from another country. He cautioned me to take a serious look at each role I apply for, and even more cautious look at every offer.
So of course, I jumped on three separate job offers on the spot… I wanted to prove that this was “the dream.” And unfortunately, I’ve found that most recent graduates from the U.S. immediately equate “the dream” to professional success and progression. I wonder if this is why we must post (or gloat) on every job acceptance we ever receive. No matter how mundane, average or even expected. “I officially accepted the position of Junior Assistant to the Assistant of the Sales Coordinator of my Father’s Company.” We have this need to promote “the dream.”
I’m not saying that other’s countries don’t value professional success. Obviously, they do, or else the world would stop spinning. But I’ve met people from all over the world who are in the mid, even late,-20s, and took a year off to travel, to learn a new language, to surf all of South America, etc. To me, that’s the “dream.” To others, getting married at 21 and starting a family is the “dream.” Why is it, that before majority of people even ask how I am, they ask how my job is going?
When I realized this, I took a step back, and carefully considered every application I sent in. I researched every company I’ve gone into interview with carefully, and I asked questions that are important to my happiness at the company. And while I’m still in the search process, I know because of this hard work and speculation, something good will come.
I want to live “my dream.” Not anyone else’s.
For now, Sydney has been great, can’t wait until spring weather! I’ll be visiting Melbourne in a month, and until then, I’ll keep exploring this amazing city!